...i'm reading reJesus by michael frost and alan hirsch (good book!), which is mostly about re-centering the Church on Jesus, or reJesus-ing the Church...
something struck me the other day...and i found myself reflecting on my new circumstances in the midst of reading [being a mostly single-parent with three small girls as my wife (no she hasn't abandoned us!!) is following God's call into nursing school (go chaundra!)]; reflecting on that and the 'oikos' of God
[definition: 'oikos' - an oikos was the basic unit of society in most greek city-states, and included the head of the oikos (usually the oldest male), his extended family (wife and children), and slaves living together in one domestic setting. large oikoi also had farms that were usually tended by the slaves, which were also the basic agricultural unit of the ancient economy.]
...too often we can develop a concept of the people of God/family of God/Church as a 'social club' or a 'volunteer agency' or a 'political interest group'
but when we are "born again" in Christ Jesus, we are borne along by the Spirit into a new, deeper family...the problem is, we don't act like it, nor does the Church seem very family-like...unless we're a fairly dysfunctional family (which may be the case)
[admit it: you don't want me showing up at your house and begin scavenging through your fridge and making myself at home like your family would...do you?!]
we separate and categorize "family" and "church"...in fact, i was chatting with friends just after new years, and talking about re-prioritizing our busy lives and seeing each other more often, and one person, reflecting what most people were thinking, said: "yeah, i need to put God and family first, but i still need to make time for friends and church."
as if all those were utterly separate categories...but for most of us they are!
...as a leader in our little local faith community, i have gotten busy out there on the streets, yet when i return from the streets to the time and place where my local community has its main worship gathering...i have recently felt estranged somehow. maybe that's not the right words...i'm having a little trouble putting this feeling into words.
but i think i think a couple things:
- i think even though my mantra this year is "less is more", i am feeling somewhat stressed by the unknown as i re-define my role in this church family. the past few years i was leading lots of outward-focused mission stuff and doing justice and compassion ministry, but my new season at home has me engaged in lots of laundry and lots of cleaning the house and lots of cooking [admission: i am truly delighted to be the 'top chef' in the household again...there is something sacred about preparaing meals]...yet, like the carrie newcomer song - holy as a day is spent - i am finding God faithful and present...in the mundane just as i found Him in the advent-ure;
- i think i am convinced and convicted by joe boyd's teaching on formation and the inner life from last weekend at the vineyard in cincinnati, and i need to reverse the flow, so-to-speak;
- i think i have not been engaging and being family to most of the people in our community...yet i wonder how to even begin to do that, how to make people family and act like family make it more than just a few meetings every month;
but the fact remains that i am guilt as charged: i have gotten away from being with my faith community like family...and even more difficult, they don't seem to treat me that way either, unless its as a distant cousin or perhaps deviant, adventurous uncle.
so i feel the need to reFamily my Jesus people...but how?
in reflecting, this has lead me to that deeper current/theme in sacred scripture that many mystics have given attention to: doing and being; word and deed; which has to do with spiritual formation...becoming christ-like;
...but what would i actually do??
well, all this got me thinking of one recent podcast that is still stirring and engaging my mind is the praxis podcast from dg hollums and kevin rains on positive deviance...something kevin said about not teaching new knowledge but encouraging new beahviour struck me. i think knowledge follows bahaviour...here is kevin's post on positive deviance:
"positive deviance is a relatively new field of research. The main body of work is coming from a married couple, Jerry and Monique Sternin. The basic idea is to make sustainable and rapid change in difficult contexts by looking for what IS working as opposed to analyzing the problem and coming up with proposals from outside the immediate context. It arose when the Sternins were commisioned to work against starvation in Vietnam. They needed reals solutions, real fast. They decided to look at a small majority of kids and families that seemed to be beating the odds. As they studied these 'positive deviants' they discovered they were engaging a few crucial but simple behaviors that others were not like feeding their kids even when they had diarrhea, feeding their kids smaller meals more frequnently, and washing their hands more. As they discerned these simple practices they encouraged and taught others in the villages to mimic these beahaviors. Through this simple process they were able to save thousands of lives.
There's a great article in Fast Company that stretches this research into business but I'm wondering what the implications would be for testing it in fields like spiritual formation, leadership development and urban ministry. There are so many things I like about this methodology. Seeing and amplifying the good (Barnabas approach, Acts 11,13), trusting that the answers to difficult challenges are already IN the context, and outsiders are in a servant role (servant leadership).
Are you a positive deviant in your context? Monk up!
I'm becoming more convinced that positive deviance is a reliable model for change in many and varied situations. It isn't hard to see how it could be utilized in areas like urban renewal or even spiritual formation. It might worth considering how this could be used in your context. i have some ideas for mine that I hope to share in future posts as I give it a go via some short cycle time experiments in my context.
Below is a summary of the process. As i read them again i was struck by 2 things. First, it begins with listening. That is always a reliable starting point. That is where St. Benedict started his famous Rule for his students/monks. The Apostle James reminds us to "be quick to listen." Proverbs is loaded with admonitions to listen well. listening is a good starting if you need one for almost any situation.
The second thing was the focus on behaviors. It is easy and sometimes fun to the point of intoxication to caught up in a good theoretical discussion. Often however they end up going nowhere and lead to deep frustration and sometimes angst. The emotional equivalent of "blue balls" if you'll pardon the crude analogy. PD however focuses on outcomes and small, doable, repeatable, simple behaviors. Practices that can actually be practiced and tested. There are some obvious connections here to spiritual disciplines and formation that need to be explored. I will be a guinea pig. KR = lab rat of PD.
There are basically 8 steps to the process of positive deviance. These are just a summary and I'll explore each one one in future posts.
Step 1: Don't Presume You Have the Answer: Approach the change issue with a beginner's mind, ready to listen.
Step 2: Don't Think of It as a Dinner Party: Involve only those that are a part of effecting the change, instead of a broad, diverse audience.
Step 3: Let Them Do It Themselves: Set up a situation in which people can discover, on their own, a better way to do things. Raise questions but the let the group come up with its own answers.
Step 4: Identify Conventional Wisdom: Establish the norms and associated boundaries.
Step 5: Identify and Analyze the Deviants: Allow the positive deviants to emerge as it becomes clear that they have found a better way.
Step 6: Let the Deviants Adopt Deviations On Their Own: Don't teach new knowledge - encourage new behavior.
Step 7: Track Results and Publicize Them: Post the results, show how they are achieved and let other groups develop their own curiosity about them.
Step 8: Repeat Steps One Through Seven: Make the whole change process cyclical.
+++ May your day be filled with positive deviance and may you and I become the positive deviants the world needs. Be the change! +++"
so, would i be a positive deviant by being with the family of God like i am with my own family? what would we actually do? how would we treat others? "hey bro, can i borrow the keys to your car?"; should i just show up and say it's my turn to wash the dishes?